HOTTT Summer Sizzlin' Sex Treats

The kids Slip-n-Slide just got
a whole lot more interesting!

The heat is on and not in a good way. Its HOT out there and folks are sluggish, cranky and just tired of these high temps. Along with other areas of your life, feeling miserable can take a toil on your sex life. We wanna here your summer time ideas on how to be "sweaty", "sultry", and "sticky" in all the right ways. Don't let your sex life go cold in all this heat, have some fun and treat yourself. What else ya going to do with that box of Popsicles in the frig? Post on our Face Book or comment here. Share those Sassy Ideas and inspire yourself!!!!

To get your creative juices (and others flowing) Click here for some sensational summer-time treats.



TEN of the Best Things You Can Do for Your Sexual Self (at Any Age)

Burlesque at the Zoo Bar, Lincoln, NE

Recently Lisa and I visited a Burlesque show in Lincoln, NE at The Zoo Bar. We loved it! It was such a positive expression of women. Real women of every size and shape strutting thier erotic self to thier own music. Powerful to see, but even more powerful if you live it!

But how do you find that elusive sense of sexual pride and confidence? Wheres that little pill that makes you not afraid of sex in the light, or the nudist beach? How do you learn to love yourself, your body and sex without shame, nor guilt? Well like most of life the answer is NOT in a little pill nor is it a destination. Here are a few tips to ponder along the journey...

1. Be your own your first partner, before anyone else.
2. Learn to talk openly about sex.
3. Be honest. For real.
4. Ditch the drama. Save it for the movies.
5. Use and trust your own best judgment.
6. Respect your body and yourself.
7. Honor your feelings, even when it's a bummer.
8. Be your whole self, not just your sexual self.
9. Further your sexual education.
10. Enjoy yourself and your sexuality.

Check out Scarleteen for a detailed exploration of this list

Lisa Meyers, sex therapist, visits the Big Apple and meets Betty Dodson sexolgist pioneer

I recently went to New Your City to visit with one of the biggies in the sexology world, Betty Dodson, PhD. I had the opportunity to invite several human sexuality classmates from Widener University as well as my 77 year old cousin who is experiencing a rebirth of her own sexuality as a senior. We spent two and a half hours in the space where Betty has conducted individual sex coaching and her body sex workshops for the past 25 years. It was thrilling to talk with her about our field, the strides toward positive sexuality and pleasure, as well as how far we still have to go. I will never forget her telling us not to be afraid to “break the rules” and get people the help they need to enjoy sexual health and wellness!

I asked the others if they would be interested in contributing their own experiences of this day as guest bloggers, and here is the first entry from my friend, Rebecca:

Left to right:

Rebecca, Lisa Meyers, Kim, Kira,

Betty Dodson, PhD, Jina, Ben

Recently, I had the utmost honor of sitting at the feet of one of my heroes. This was easy to do, not only because she had floor pillows laid in an intentional yet comfortable circle, but because her doors were open and she was incredibly welcoming. When you've given as many people orgasms as 82 year-old pleasure-activist Betty Dodson has, you can really take a day off here and there. But Dodson and her business partner Carlin Ross don't seem to have any intention of slowing down their pace. The two of them regaled us with stories about male ego-stroking, giggled over throwing "whore" signs to one another, classified 70 as the new youth of old age, and casually discussed talking to google about getting a new "sex education" search term together so that education-seekers didn't get lumped in with the porn-seekers. It was a sunny living room brimmed with potential and a strange sort of familiarity and I never wanted our two-hours to be up. Yet, even when it was, leaving felt natural, as if hugging a friend you would soon get coffee with again. The visit, organized by Lisa Meyers of Turner Professional Group, was an inspiring chance to see the bravada of a women who has never stopped doing it her way; the kind of woman I strive to be and remain.

--rebecca

From Fizzle to FABULOUS: Sex therapy can be just the ticket!

Couples will often ask, "just how important is sex?" and my standard reply is,  "not very...UNLESS your're not getting any! Then it can be really sticky thorn in your relationship" Our physical and emotional intimacy needs are important and need to be nurtured for a healthy relationship to flourish. Yet, there are many challenges to a healthy sex life.

Couples come into our office often complaining that their sex life has fizzled. Better sex is possible and we have the answers! Theres some great ways to bring the romance back to the bedroom and therapy can be the first step. Just initiating the conversation can be a scarry obstacle. A trained sex therapist can help you navigate the challenges of a sometimes embarrassing conversation. For some 'self help' tips try these ideas:

1) Love Nest Make Over: Keep the bedroom sexy and free from clutter. Piles of clothes are not just a "to do" list, but are a Romance Turn OFF! The bedroom should be a sanctuary for relaxation, sharing, safety and sassiness. PS... get rid of the TV!!!

2) Hug to relax and reconnect. This simple act can really be the bridge for a couple to bond after a hectic day. We need physical touch and hugging is a simple 'no sex demand' activity that allows couples to reaffirm there union. A 3 minute hug can be powerful... Try it!

For more tips and a great 10 day "Boot Camp" guide check out the intimacy experiement and see how you and your snuggle bunny do. There's some great tips to try on your own.