Lube 101

Many women experience vaginal dryness, especially as they age. It can take women longer to become moist, causing sexual play to be uncomfortable or painful. Men also can benefit from the sensations offered from a lube. A favorite lube on the nightstand can help make sex play a little more enjoyable.

According to the CENTER FOR SEXUAL HEALTH at the University of Michigan, " adequate lubrication is an important part of positive sexual interaction." While the most readily accessible lubricant is human saliva, some people find that they need the aid of commercially available lube. It is important to note that some lubes have 'glycerin', which has been shown to increase the production of yeast and irritation in the vagina for some women. NOT FUN!!!

The wonderful world of lubes has a vast array of types and purposes. Water-based lubes are for use with condoms, since oil based lubes will cause tears....Oppps! However, water based lubes can dry out very quickly. For longer sex play you may want to try silicone lubes. But remember, DONT mix silicone lubes with silicone sex toys, it can cause the silicone in sex toys to deteriorate. Bummer! Theres lube specifcally for anal play, sex toys, personal masturbation and penis/ vagina intercourse So make it a mission ...a sexual adventure to try them all.

For a $7 Off Coupon for K-Y premimum products visit Couples Place by K-Y Brand.

Sex Facts: Your Sexual Health Consultant Takes On Common Questions

Unfortunately, most of us got little sex education as youth and the bit we got wasn't all that good! Some of the lucky got a booklet or gym class film explaining "Plumbing 101" which left us with a multitude of more questions. And lets face it, porn hasnt been the best sex education substitute. Yet, thats what the average couple uses to build their sexual lives together.

We spend more time, preparing for a hobby or researching how to stain the deck, than we do on making ourselves sexual experts. Some figure it should just be "natural" or they subscribe to the 'on-the-job training' philosophy, but thats a weak orientation at best.

There are a lot of sexual myths out there and a whole lot of just erroneous information. Our sexual experts help with providing comprehensive, medically accurate information to our patients. We are lucky to have skilled sexologists with a rich history of working with diverse groups.

Our team of sexual health experts report that its amazing how adults, when provided knowledgeable sex educators, will begin to review, adjust and evaluate a lifetime of bad sex education. Many report that having someone to consult with gave them a better sense of who they were as a sexual person and control over their sex lives.

Do you want to be a better lover? Do you need solid sex information? Do you have questions, about your sexuality? We provide our clients resources, and access to leaders in the field.

Some common questions we get asked:

1. When is it normal to lose your virginity?

The average male loses his virginity at age 16.9; females average slightly older, at 17.4. And a new study shows that genetics may be a factor: inherited traits, such as impulsivity, can make a person more or less willing to have sex at an earlier age.

Sources: Kinsey Institute; California State University

2. How can I reach orgasm every time?

While 75 percent of men always reach orgasm during sex, only 29 percent of women report the same. In addition, most women are unable to climax through vaginal intercourse, instead needing clitoral stimulation.

Source: National Health and Social Life Survey

3. How many sex partners is too many?

What's your number? According to a survey of adults aged 20 to 59, women have an average of four sex partners during their lifetime; men have an average of seven.

Source: National Center for Health Statistics

4. Do I really need to worry about an STI if Im in a relationship?

At least 50 percent of sexually active men and women will have a genital HPV infection at some point in their lives. HPV, or human papillomavirus, comes in both low- and high-risk forms; low-risk HPV can cause genital warts, and high-risk can cause cervical and other cancers. In 90 percent of cases, the body's immune system will fight off the disease within two years.

Source: Centers for Disease Control and Prevention

5. Does size matter?

Relax, guys. No matter what those, ahem, movies might suggest, in the United States, the average erect penis is five to seven inches long, and four to six inches in circumference.

Source: Kinsey Institute

6. How come I cant keep it hard?

Approximately 5 percent of 40-year-old men and between 15 to 25 percent of 65-year-old men experience erectile dysfunction.

Source: National Institute of Diabetes and Digestive and Kidney Diseases

From Fizzle to FABULOUS: Sex therapy can be just the ticket!

Couples will often ask, "just how important is sex?" and my standard reply is,  "not very...UNLESS your're not getting any! Then it can be really sticky thorn in your relationship" Our physical and emotional intimacy needs are important and need to be nurtured for a healthy relationship to flourish. Yet, there are many challenges to a healthy sex life.

Couples come into our office often complaining that their sex life has fizzled. Better sex is possible and we have the answers! Theres some great ways to bring the romance back to the bedroom and therapy can be the first step. Just initiating the conversation can be a scarry obstacle. A trained sex therapist can help you navigate the challenges of a sometimes embarrassing conversation. For some 'self help' tips try these ideas:

1) Love Nest Make Over: Keep the bedroom sexy and free from clutter. Piles of clothes are not just a "to do" list, but are a Romance Turn OFF! The bedroom should be a sanctuary for relaxation, sharing, safety and sassiness. PS... get rid of the TV!!!

2) Hug to relax and reconnect. This simple act can really be the bridge for a couple to bond after a hectic day. We need physical touch and hugging is a simple 'no sex demand' activity that allows couples to reaffirm there union. A 3 minute hug can be powerful... Try it!

For more tips and a great 10 day "Boot Camp" guide check out the intimacy experiement and see how you and your snuggle bunny do. There's some great tips to try on your own.

Make an ordinary card... Exceptional with Love Quotes

We've collected some of our favorite 'Love Messages' from the best poets, romantics and authors on affairs of the heart. So take that ordinary drug store card and kick it up a notch with some classic musings.

Have a Happy Valentines Day!!!

"Everything that I understand, I understand only because I love." — Leo Tolstoy

"We are most alive when we're in love." — John Updike

"We can only learn to love by loving." — Iris Murdoch

"Love is everything it's cracked up to be … It really is worth fighting for, being brave for, risking everything for." — Erica Jong

"In true love it is the soul that envelops the body." — Friedrich Nietzsche

"We love because it's the only true adventure." — Nikki Giovanni

"'Till I loved I never lived—Enough." — Emily Dickinson

"The supreme happiness of life is the conviction that we are loved." — Victor Hugo

"I have found that to love and be loved is the most empowering and exhilarating of all human emotions." — Jane Goodall

"Love is our true destiny. We do not find the meaning of life by ourselves alone—we find it with another." — Thomas Merton

"Love is a taste of paradise." — Sholem Aleichem

"We are told that people stay in love because of chemistry, or because they remain intrigued with each other, because of many kindnesses, because of luck. But part of it has got to be forgiveness and gratefulness." — Ellen Goodman

"Even when love isn't enough…somehow it is." — Stephen King

"If you have only one smile in you, give it to the people you love." — Maya Angelou

Great Last Minute Valentine Gift Ideas

1.  Chocolate Lovers Delight: What's the one thing better than receiving a heart-shaped box of chocolates on V-day from your loved one? Getting that box once a month all year long, of course! You and your sweetie can taste concoctions from a vast range of international chocolatiers, delivered to your door for only $30.95 USD per month (plus S&H).

2. Romantic Movie: Get cozy on the sofa for a romatic movie night. From the charming Colin Firth as Mr. Darcy in the BBC's adaptation of Jane Austin's classic "Pride and Prejudice" to Ryan Gosling's swoon-worthy romantic gestures in "The Notebook," what better way to curl up with your sweetheart on the 14th than with a timeless romance on DVD? Order as soon as possibly for overnight delivery from Amazon!

3. Creative Memory Maker: Take a collection of your favorite photos from your phone or camera that you havent had time to print. Go onto your photo gallery and colorize them in fun colors. Go to your local drug store and print. Then place in matching frames for a unique and whimsical gift.

4. Dress up the bedroom: Dress up the bedroom and buy a new set of luxurious sheets 600-thread count Egyptian cotton. Set a bouquet of flowers next to the bed, and decorate with candles and rose petals. You'll enjoy the ambiance on February 14th, but you'll also get to enjoy those sheets for a long time to come.

5. Couple Make Over: Find a hair salon, like Rio Salon in Parkville, that goes that extra step to pamper you. Michelle gives a great scalp massage that I highly recommend. Ask her for tips so you can replicate that special feeling at home for each other. Go in for a double make over and get a cut and color together. The big reveal can be really fun.

BEST cheap Valentine Ideas

And the winners are:

3. Playing like a kid with your sweetheart can be energizing and romantic. So stop into your neighborhood store and grab two inexpensive plastic sleds, head over to QuickTrip for some cocoa to go (Dont forget to get a little adult beverage to spice up the toasty treat) and find your local sledding hill. Suicide Hill (55th & Brookside Ave) in Brookside is my favorite. Have FUN!!!

2. Romance is going to the dogs... Our four legged friends can be a powerful love potion. Dont got a dog.... borrow your neighbors (Trust me after months indoors the dogs and your neighbors will be thankful). Take your new canine friend and your sweetheart to the nearby dog park (Our favorite is the one at Penn Valley Park). The dogs run free in an enclosure while you get to laugh and giggle at their antics. Sit back and enjoy the FREE show or romp around with your sweetie and "Rover". For added fun, take "Fido" to the self-serve bath and pamper him with a shampoo before returning him to his owner. Activities like this can be a great memory and bonding moment for you and your Valentines.

1. Drum roll...........our #1 cheap date idea: Porn or erotica can be a great tool to spice up a night. Visually stimulating its novelity can get the fire roaring as well as provide fuel for future fantasies. Whats better than porn... FREE PORN! Check out this great offer. This Valentine’s Day the entire HotMovies.com network will be totally free from 4pm-6pm EST!! What an awesome gift, right?!? Our sex educator, Lisa Schulze, really delivered on this fab idea!!!

Cheap Dates

Love is in the air but times are tough ...cash is tight so how can you show your'e snuggle bunny that you care while saving a penny or two. Heres our list of fun cheap dates.
1. Bowl your honey over at the local bowling alley. Go on a "rockin' disco night" for added nostalgia and fun. Put your favorite pet names up on the board for a lil' PDA.

2. Do a 'happy hour' meal deal. Lots of restuarants have deals earlier in the evening or on slower nights during the week. So call ahead and ask. Sign up for restuarant deals at sites like Muncharoo.com or groupon.com 

3. Can you say..."Dive Bar"! Its not a dive bar if it doesnt have cheap drinks. Make a game and try to hit three new dive bars that you've never been to. Challenge your sweetie to darts or pool (another dive bar requirement). The looser pays for the juke box.

4. Top Chef It. Search new receipes on the internet, buy a bottle of wine and let your inner Julia Child out as you prepare a meal together.

5. Get some culture... Visit the Crossroads or the Nelson and discuss art. But it's a lot of fun just to people watch too.

6. Get some class... Enroll in a class through Communiversity or you local community center. Lots of fun and new horizons for cheap. Kite making anyone?

7. Be civic and volunteer together. Help out at your local school, or visit a nursing home.

8. Pick each other's favorite hobby and spend some time teaching each other the finer points of your interest.

9. Visit your local library to rent you next movie for a fraction of the cost. Make a bucket list of the 'classics' and spend the weekend with some popcorn, cocoa and all your favorite romantic movies. Visit our website for a list of suggested titles under resources.

10. Visit your local coffee shop for open mic night, sneak in a flask to make the coffee a lil more 'adult beverage-like'.  Enjoy!

Doctors of Sex: George Turner & Lisa Meyers Reach for the Top Pursuing PhD specializing in Human Sexuality

George was recently interviewed by Widener Magazine, highlighting his pursuit of a PhD in Education focusing on Human Sexuality. George and Lisa are completing their doctoral training at Widener University (outside Philadelphia) the premier academic training ground for sexologist. George is currently working on his dissertation and is expected to graduate with his PhD in Dec. 2011. Lisa has begun her 2nd year in the program. The human sexuality program at Widener is an exceptional training ground for clinicians interested in sex education, sex therapy, as well as consultation in curriculum and policy development.

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Loft-Like Office Space Available - Plaza & Westport

Furniture Included Office Space

 Overview:

We are a group of clinical professionals looking to invite other practitioners to share our expanded and remodeled office. We welcome other psychotherapists, but we are actively looking to recruit a psychiatrist, chiropractor, massage therapist, nurse practitioner, or physical therapist to complement our client services. We would also entertain other professionals. 



The Basics:

Share contemporary, designer, loft-like, office space with concrete floors, artwork, soothing lobby environment, music & fountain, restroom and shower. Access to conference/group room & full kitchen.

Our Motto:

We believe that our client services are enhanced through collaborative care and look to create a cooperative of health care professionals dedicated to holistic wellness services.

The Area:
Beautiful Plaza / Westport within walking distance to area coffee houses, boutique shops, restaurants, grocery stores and walking park at JC Nichols Fountain. Easy access to I35 and 71hwy. Close to KU/ UMKC.

Spa-Like office space for rent

The Rooms:
Rooms are a generous size

$600 includes all utilities, and WiFi. , $700 includes above PLUS furnished room.

 

*We also have a shared ‘Rent by the Hour’ system for those with limited practices.

 

You: Ideal colleague is an established or ‘newly in private practice’ entrepreneur looking to enjoy the benefits of a collaborative practice setting for referrals, case consultation, business support and growth. Finally, a candidate must be financially responsible.

 

US: We are a group of independent practitioners; we routinely meet to support one another’s businesses both clinically and strategically. 

 

Tours: FREE tours arranged by request... so whatya got to loose. This is a MUST see!  



You may check us out at: www.turnerprofessionalgroup.com

 

For more information, please call George at 816.931.8255

 

Our Waiting Room

Includes

• Furnished Office and Lobby
• Internet
• Webpage with picture/ bio Listing (After initial set up fee)
• Beverage Service (Coffee, Water, Cups)
• Kleenex
• Office Aesthetics (Aroma Therapy & Music)
• Use of library, Group Room, Kitchen
• Collegial Networking               

Benefits:

• No out of pocket office set up expense (furniture, decorations, computer)
• Furnished Wait Room
• Flat Rate –– No %
• Simple & Stable short-term contract for 12 months
• No typical long term (3 & 5) year contract